Handling the Stress & Anxiety of Divorce

Divorce is one of the most stressful events that can occur in life.  During a divorce or child custody matter you may feel a variety of emotions; love, hate, sorrow, hopelessness, etc.   Adding to the emotional stress is the economic stress.  Couples are often not financially prepared for the divorce.

Children will take cures on how to respond to the divorce from you.   If you are stressed then they will be as well.  Your kids will feel a lot more relaxed if they see that you are relaxed and in good spirits. Here are a couple of things you can do to help minimize the stress of divorce:

Eat Right. Eating a healthy diet helps you maintain a positive outlook. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables and drink plenty of water. Multivitamins, especially vitamin B, can help you combat the effects of the additional stress you are facing. A vitamin B complex is important for maintaining your energy level, reducing stress and boosting your immune system.

Exercise. Stay physically active. Exercise makes you feel great and helps to eliminate stress, anger, frustration and anxiety. If you don’t exercise regularly, this is a great time to start to get in the habit; join a club to make re-make yourself and get to know people who have a healthy lifestyle and will be a great cheering team for you.

Journal. Journaling is a great way to explore your feelings and work through problems and feelings. When your ex does something that is frustrating, journal about it and explore your feelings. If you’re angry about something, remember that anger usually comes from a sad place, not a bad place – we usually get angry because we are hurt, frustrated, or sad. It’s normal to experience highs and lows when you are going through a divorce and letting yourself experience the grief will actually help you heal and move forward.

Have Fun!! Be sure to schedule some fun into your daily life. Make time for fun and do things that you love! Spend time with friends and family who support and love you. Take a bath, read a book, have a nap, watch your favorite movie and indulge yourself. Avoid negative people and search for friends who have similar interests. It’s important to have a support group and surround yourself with positive people.

Relax. When anxiety starts to overtake you, close your eyes and relax from your head to your toes. Allow each part of your body to relax, beginning with your eyes, your jaw, your shoulders, your arms, and working down to your toes. Don’t let anger overcome you – allowing your ex to “make” you angry allows your ex to control your life. Decide to be the master of your own destiny.

Sleep. Sleep is rejuvenating. Getting enough sleep helps us emotionally and physically and dreams are an important part of working through our feelings. As you lie in bed at night, think about the beginnings in your life. Don’t dwell on the past, look to the future.

Contact Rocheleau Law at (702) 914-0400 to discuss your divorce or child custody issue with a Family Law Attorney.